Mental Toughness

13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do

Recently a friend picked out this book for me.  Immediately intrigued by the title, I knew this would be a book I wanted to give my undivided attention.  For that reason, I saved it for my trip to Miami.  I LOVED all 13 chapters, the ones that really spoke to me are bolded:

  1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry For Themselves
  2. They Don’t Give Away Their Power
  3. They Don’t Shy Away from Change
  4. They Don’t Focus On The Things They Can’t Control
  5. They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone
  6. They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks
  7. They Don’t Dwell On the Past
  8. They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over
  9. They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success
  10. They Don’t Give Up After the First Time
  11. They Don’t Fear Alone Time
  12. They Don’t Feel The World Owes Them Anything
  13. They Don’t Expect Immediate Results

A few themes that spoke to me were patience and fear.  In the chapter 4 it talks about fear being a reason why we feel the need to control things.  Fear manifests itself in many ways.  I never thought of the why behind needing to feel in control of most situations.  It also never occurred to me how much freer I could feel relinquishing the need to micro manage the details of my life.

Chapter 13 dives deeper in to patience.  All the things linked to a lack of patience.  I along with many people in this day and age value instant gratification.  I want it DONE…yesterday…in stellar fashion…all the time.  Over the years, I have learned to focus on the journey and the failing that leads to success.  Got me thinking how many relationships, ties, or deals I’ve severed due to cutting things or people off extremely too soon…

One of my favorite reads of the challenge.  Definitely check it out!

-J

 

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One comment

  1. I love book recommendations so I’ll try to get to reading this book:) in the book “the millionaire next door” Stanley does the widest most extensive survey of millionaires ever done and one distinction he finds between millionaires and people who weren’t millionaires (among a lot of other distinctions) was that millionaires focused on things that they could control, while people who were poor always tried to focus on things they couldn’t control so I would definitely agree with chapter 4:)

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